Relationships can be wonderful. Having someone who knows you, cares about you and loves you despite everything is one of the best things in the world.
But sometimes the opposite sex can really get on your nerves. It seems they just don’t understand why a particular habit really drives you nuts.
Here are 6 ways men make women want to pull their hair out:
1. When they don’t understand what we’re saying
Women are known for being a bit indirect. But we expect our man to be able to follow our line of thought.
If you’ve been with someone for an extended period of time, you’d think they would know how your mind works. But is seems, no matter how many times we speak with them, they just don’t get it. Sure we could just come out and say what we mean, but that would be too easy.
2. When they don’t listen to us
How many times have you said something to your man and could see his eyes glaze over? You know they stopped listening about 5 minutes ago. Maybe it’s the tone of our voice? Or if we speak about something not sports, car, or tool related they just tune us out?
Sometimes it is best to do temperature checks with your guy to make sure they are listening. Saying “Did you hear me?” and “What do you think?” are ways of getting their attention and seeing if they really did listen.
3. When they think flowers will make everything better
It seems like the idea that flowers are the solution to everything is programed into men. Sure, they help, but they are not a cure-all. We need to discuss what happened and why we were upset. It is something that may make men uncomfortable, that is why they hope you will just accept the flowers and move on. But it’s not that easy. Sometimes we have to be uncomfortable in order to make everything right.
4. When they won’t say how they really feel
Some men really struggle with expressing their emotions. They like to hide them deep down inside, so that it is a huge struggle to get them to say what’s on their mind. Then, they blow up at something totally unrelated because they just can’t keep it in any longer.
When something is bothering them, if they don’t talk about it right away, it can make the problem much worse than it really is. It is important to create an environment that allows your man to open up. Keep a neutral face while they speak, don’t get angry or anxious, and don’t respond back until they are done. If you create this secure environment, they may be more likely to open up the next time.
5. When they don’t take our side
Some men are more logical than emotional. That means when there is a problem, they may look at both sides objectively and try to find a solution, or may even disagree with you. But for women, we just want someone to acknowledge our feelings and support us. It doesn’t matter if our side is completely wrong, be with us. Let us know you are 100% by our side. Then, only after that, wait for us to calm down a little and help us see reason.
6. When they only speak in analogies
It seems that a lot of men need an analogy to get their point across. It may be a sports analogy, a work analogy, or even a story from their childhood. But there are always analogies when having a discussion. We get it. We don’t need you to tell us 40 different ways how something works. We are smarter than you think. Keep it to one analogy, or better yet, none.
All of these examples can drive women crazy. But that is the difference between men and women. Those differences are what can make us want to pull our hair out, also draw us to each other.
While it is easy to get frustrated with your man, just take a deep breath, and love him for all his quirks!
Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in Anthropology and a masters in Psychology. She lives in Orange County, CA and is a mother of twins. Contact her at Meganshauri@gmail.com